What Personal Identity Enemies Are Holding You Back?
In the first post of this series – 7 Enemies of Identity: Part 1 – we uncovered the 7 enemies that attack our identity and how they affect leadership ability and both professional and personal life advancements. As leaders in our businesses, organizations and families it is important to maximize the maturity of one’s overall identity and work to master each of the 7 enemies. We will take a deep dive into the first four enemies today.
Enemy 1: The absence of a clear and defined PURPOSE.
This enemy leaves us constantly responding out of reaction alone. Because they are aligned with any worthy goal or mission. To truly maximize purpose, we must clearly define with all five sense what we want our outcome to be.
Enemy 2: The inability to feel truly SIGNIFICANT to a purpose, passion or deeply inside ourselves.
I learned that when my I felt low about the roles, and responsibilities I had that I was more prone to depression, anxiety, and in many cases come out as temperamental, angry, or in the best-case scenario, a moody response.
We need to tie ourselves to something greater than what we get in life and reward ourselves for the efforts we make towards a common goal or outcome. Significance is not found in people, places, or things, it’s found in a deep connection to something greater and the progress we draw from it.
Enemy 3: The lack of MEANING.
Meaning is nothing more than the value we place on a circumstance or situation, and often a voice of our own inner self-talk. There is no way to connect to a vision, or team without looking for a positive meaning in all circumstances or situations.
Let’s say I cast a vision to the team for the first time and the response of the team is “Needs Improvement”. I am poised to respond and if I apply a meaning that says, “they don’t like my idea, which means they don’t like me” I will likely close the door to making the vision better by the use of their talents. Everything from my voice to my body language will tell them that I am being “defensive” and closed off. On the other side, let’s say my meaning is “Great! They can help make it better.”, then I stand a chance of having ideas from the team and showing them that I am a safe leader to lean into and collaborate with.
Enemy 4: The lack of SECURITY.
Our security is usually answered by one question “Do I feel safe?”. Often times our security is tied to our upbringings. If I struggle with regular conflict then the feeling of security and safety is hard for me to realize. This is usually true because I am only considering the worst – case scenario leading me towards responding out of fear. No one leads well out of fear. To me it can actually be anti-leadership. Security and safety is only built on an intentional focus towards relationship and trust. The best way to build these components is through intentional vulnerability and taking a step of faith.
Don’t miss our next post, the last of our three-part series. We will discuss, in detail, the final three enemies and the opportunities to overcome them.
In your service,