Have you ever been around someone that always left you feeling drained after leaving them? Or how about a friendship that was always leading you towards trouble? Or maybe you had a close relationship that made you feel like you weren’t good enough?
Chances are you have experienced one, if not all, of these situations. I have had relationships where there was a feeling of an incomplete connection between us. There were times when I felt like I wasn’t quite good enough to be in that relationship. Friendships that would always push me towards trouble one way or the other. These relationships were always a struggle for me. I felt like I needed these people in my life, in my close circle. It wasn’t until I realized the pain the relationships were causing me and those around me that I decided I needed a change.
I started to surround myself with much different people: people who encouraged me to become a better person, people I could grow with and reach new levels of success with. They were always willing to lend a helping hand. These are the type people that I keep in my close circle today.
Switch gears with me for just a few moments. Let’s take an extension cord as an example. The wires inside the cord must be properly insulated in order for the cord to function for its intended use. Right? Now what happens when the wires are not properly insulated and they are exposed? The cord doesn’t function the way it is intended to function. More than likely there will be a short circuit and power isn’t given in the right direction. Also there’s a greater chance that someone could get hurt with these wires exposed.
Now instead of an extension cord, let’s think of you. You are the wires inside the extension cord and your relationships are the rubber surrounding them. We are either exposed by relationships or insulated by them.
When we have insulators in our lives, we are able to function at the maximum level. We are able to grow and look forward to the future. We feel encouraged and empowered to reach new heights that otherwise we would see as impossible. We feel valued and worthy. It is safe to say that we feel better about ourselves and our lives when we have insulators in them.
When we are in relationships with people who expose us, we are in an unhealthy state of being. Now we are no longer insulated, and the wires are exposed. If we won’t be able to properly care for others, there will be short circuits in our relationships and daily routine and we can even hurt other people unknowingly. We usually aren’t encouraged to grow or better ourselves. That can then lead to a low self-esteem and low confidence.The best people to have in your close circle are insulators. Now you might be wondering “How will I know if they are an insulator?” Well there are a few things you will want to consider when surrounding yourself with good people. They are as follows:
The best people to have in your close circle are insulators. Now you might be wondering “How will I know if they are an insulator?”
Well there are a few things you will want to consider when surrounding yourself with good people. They are as follows:
- Their character: Do their morals match yours? Better yet, do they have sound, good morals?
- Their loyalty: Could you depend on this person if you needed them?
- Their accountability: When they tell you they will be somewhere, are they?
- Their integrity: Are they honest? Have they ever lied to you? Do they lie to others?
- Their ability to give: Are they able to selflessly give their time?
- Their level of faith: Is their faith strong?
- Their ability to take on responsibility: How well do they handle their responsibilities? Do they take care of their responsibilities?
The best way to insure that you are surrounding yourself with insulators is to become an insulator. The saying “Birds of a feather flock together” is very true. People with integrity attract and seek others with integrity. Ask yourself these questions. If you fall short on one or more, that’s okay, there is always time to grow in that area.
You are all fantastic! You ALL deserve to have insulators in your life. And you all are capable, if you aren’t already, to be an insulator for others. Keep up the work to always grow yourself. And remember once you are healing you can grow and once you are growing you can go help others! #healgrowgo
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