In the early years of my life, I often was very confused. This confusion was based on the turmoil going on in my life. As a child I would watch a lot of TV or listen to the radio as an escape mechanism. When I would watch and listen, I often heard others explain to their audiences and myself the reason why we should adopt their ideas or belief systems. They would paint pretty pictures and explain that if we followed their example we would find happiness. It is very ironic, because they often offered a false and deceptive sense of happiness and hope. There is literally a new pill, diet, or promise made each and every day. Everyone is selling joy, but no one can actually deliver on it. I find it interesting that the same stations will also have toxicities in their programming, which depicts and portrays nothing but war and hate. But why? Before I answer that question from my own perspective, please let me ask you to consider a couple of questions.
- Does it seem strange that those who picture endless amounts of suffering in their programming also sell endless versions of instant happiness?
- Why is it possible to wake up feeling energized, focused, and ready, then turn on the TV or radio only to leave the house feeling depressed, hopeless, and lost?
During my journey in life, I have tested out many things trying to fill an endless void, which I could not explain. As I searched, it became increasingly harder to discuss or choose a clear path toward something of real meaning. In the business world, there is a marketing term called a “Pain Point.” This often reflects an area in our lives that is pushed on repeatedly, until we choose to act. It is much like having a thorn in our side or a splinter under our skin. It’s often very small, but it causes us pain until we drop what we are doing and take the thorn or splinter out. If we allow others to push our pain point, it makes us feel less than we are. Often times it halts our search for a solution, based on our perception and searching for the truth.
I have found and believe that the world is full of evil; it is all the media seems to focus on. They do not desire to portray the miracles or good which others have done, only the negative. However, I have seen miracles, second chances, and the hearts of loving people, all being captured in an instant moment in time. When we only have one source of information, which feeds us a steady diet of pain, suffering, abandonment, evil, war, and destruction, then that particular source can sell us a solution. It’s ironic because their solution will generally cost us money. I’m not saying that evil is not present in the world; however, there is also love, joy, concern, opportunity, and miracles, which happen every day. I have found that the truth is the only solution that has ever worked. It doesn’t cost money and only requires our attention and focus.
These are all the things that were promised to provide me happiness and fulfillment, but only left me more broken than the solution before me.
Relationship: I was sold on the pretense that if I had a perfect relationship, it would increase my self-worth. (This is due to a fallible person, like me, saying she loved me)
Health: If my health was perfect, I would have all the energy, time and determination to have endless opportunities. So when my health was compromised, I wanted to give in. I began to give up by thinking that if I loved my body I would stay in a constant state of growth. In accordance with the science world, after the age of 30 our bodies begin to deteriorate, some slower than others.
Money: This is the biggest lie in the book. In my youth we had very little, as many of you know, sometimes having no utility power, a diet of 99% noodles, or no food at all. In those moments I prayed and sought out wealth, because I thought by having more, my problems would go away. The truth is as I began to be successful and could provide well for myself and those that I loved, I still felt empty. I tried the sports cars, a bigger home, and exotic locations, but those things provided only temporary enjoyment, at best.
Beauty: The pursuit of being “Beautiful” is a huge thing, which affects us all. It’s all based on the perception of acceptance. We want to be accepted by everyone and we will spend a great deal of time chasing a better version of ourselves; once we obtain it, we set out to do it again. We bake, shake, twist, tort, and, otherwise, torture our body or mind into many false perceptions of who we really are. This is mostly based on the air brushed magazine picture, Hollywood movie, TV show, or something or someone, we may or may not know, and what they say about us.
All of these things have one thing in common, Exhaustion. This causes our endless pursuit of avoiding our true self, or a self defined by our culture. I spent years seeking to find myself and I only came up empty. It wasn’t until I realized I was looking in the wrong place that I finally found myself. I began by starting to look outside of the coloring book lines and on to a different canvas all together. I traded my exhaustion for Faith. Faith taught me that contentment is more important than a pursuit of false and temporary happiness. Faith has taught me, that my pursuit of money, relationships, and even my own self-values are best filtered through how it can change a life, including mine. I gave up running, chasing, and pursing the temporary things in life. I started to concentrate on the things that would one day create a better life for others. When I did this every decision, action, and result was rated by creating a legacy of grace, joy, and contentment, which is what life truly has to offer. I traded restlessness and I obtained peace. Through faith I found my footing on sturdy ground. I can have joy, during the occasional sorrows in life, and peace amidst the storms. My height, wealth, or relationships no longer define me, but instead I find and experience every opportunity in each area of my life. Knowledge can always be gained from every experience, even painful ones.
Will you consider looking at faith as an option?
Would you be willing to step off of the hamster wheel, away from the confusion of the media, and choose to pull from something greater than yourself?
If you are exhausted, tired of chasing, and want peace, then keep reading. I know you are expecting a long process because the normal influences of the day have taught us to feel this way. But it’s actually quite simple. Here are three very quick ways to adopt a spirit of faith and if it’s practiced daily, it won’t be long before you will be able to smile and wave at things that you use to be terrified of.
Faith Is Held Up By Prayer, Intention, and Focus
Prayer is what connects us with the forces outside ourselves, no matter how or what you believe in. Faith for me is the faith I place in Jesus. When I rest in Him and His word, I can truly rest. If I try to rest in anything else I become totally exhausted. Prayer and meditation help us to ground our anxious minds. It allows us to look at life with a spirit of gratitude, opportunity, and acceptance. You can pray out loud, in your mind or, like me, sometimes on paper. It’s like having a conversation with yourself. The important thing is getting to a place where prayer is a daily activity. During prayer God reveals to us how much He loves us, even if you don’t yet believe in Him. You can make a request, say thank you, or simply sit still and be quiet, allowing your heart to be receptive. It is because of my prayer life with Jesus that I have become anchored in His truth. It has allowed me to focus and become more effective and successful in life. If I were to pray for you right now, I would pray that His truth would also be revealed to you, in your journey in life. However, it will be necessary to let go of the influences of the world.
Intention governs our direction and aspirations by the pursuit of action. Much like prayer intention aims at hope, peace, and joy. When we set our intention first, it gives us the ability to see deceptions quickly. Our intentions become a boundary line, with which we intend to see that things normally get done. The lack of intention is the root of all confusion. Being intentional gives us a promise of the future and comfort of the past. A new intention allows us to say to our past, “Thank you for teaching me such a valuable lesson. Thank you for teaching me what works and doesn’t work. Thank you for helping me to understand a little more about life and allowing me to grow from it.”
Focus is our aiming source, the device we use to pursue, that which is beyond one’s self. As a hunter steps into the woods, the breath escapes his mouth during the early cold mourning and as his prey steps into eye sight. He raises his weapon and looks through the sight, aims and pulls the trigger. The hunter walks away knowing that what he aimed at will now provide a provision. What we focus on in life becomes what we are aiming at. If we focus on our past, we reap our past. However, if we focus on our future, we reap our future. What we focus on, aim at, and pursue with intention, we will find, obtain, and use it to provide for our future for many years to come.
Please ask yourself, “How do I move from negative influences to a healthy set of influences by using the secrets of faith to add value to my life and the lives of those around me?”
I hope you enjoy reading the content of the blogs that I write. It is my hope that you find them helpful and informative. If you have a friend, colleague, or family member who you feel will benefit from my words, please share it with them. It would be my honor to offer even the smallest light to anyone’s life that needs more illumination.
In your service,