This is a guest post by Jenny Holt, Freelance Health Writer
Low self-confidence and lack of self-belief can make even the simplest of tasks seem daunting. Building up your self-confidence is an ongoing journey which can take some time to achieve but it can be particularly challenging if you have suffered trauma. Bullying comes in many forms but it almost always lowers the confidence of its victim. This simple guide will prove that you have the power to turn a traumatic experience into something positive.
Talk to Someone
Remember that you are not as alone as you may feel. Statistics show that only 36% of people being bullied report it. Part of taking control and getting your power back means recognizing that you are being bullied and talking to someone you trust. There are many forms of bullying; cyberbullying can be just as painful and traumatic as other forms of abuse. Develop your self-confidence by learning more about how to tackle it with others’ help.
Take Small Steps
Do not try to achieve too much, too soon. This can result in a knock to your confidence and may feel overwhelming. If you feel that you struggle to leave your home or you are finding it difficult to start conversations with people you don’t know, try to ease into it. Listen to others talking to people they don’t know and use this to ask someone a question at the supermarket, in your school or at work. Take small steps into unfamiliar social situations by going with a trusted friend.
Remember Bullying is NOT About You
Low confidence and self-esteem can be a result of others’ behavior towards you. Prolonged abuse of your character can be extremely difficult to come back from and is likely to result in false beliefs about yourself. Tell yourself that the bullying was never about you nor was it a reflection of your character. Write down positive things about yourself and refer to it when the words of your abuser are knocking your confidence. Remember that you are building your confidence for yourself and not for anyone else.
Becoming more self-assured can help prevent further bullying in the future. Never accept this behavior and always tell someone if this is happening to you. Remember, these steps can be followed even if you haven’t suffered bullying. Building self-confidence can help you to face new challenges or try things you thought you would never experience.
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