“It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. However, in life we go up and down mountains week to week, month to month or and in some cases day to day.”
– Theodore Roosevelt
For many years I struggled with negative thoughts taking over my mind. Instead of having a positive mindset, I allowed those negative thoughts to take me to the brink of chaos, suicide and years of unneeded depression, anxiety and fear. Primarily it was based on the expectation I had for my life. I expected my life to be perfect, refined and full of a happiness I no longer had to search for.
After years of searching, I found that the secrets to life are actually very simple.
- Never give to receive.
- Give to simply be giving.
- Seek to serve rather than to be served.
The most important and powerful secret is to pay attention to what you tell yourself.
A “Challenging Thought” is a term that is often used in the world of psychology which describes a very simple principle. A challenging thought is the spoken thought to a current conscience thought. A quick personal example can be found in a thought that has repeated itself in my head for years: “I hate being short, people won’t take me seriously.” This type of thinking is limiting, self-loathing and deeply hurtful to the self-esteem. How do I challenge it? It’s very simple, you fight lies with the truth, and the truth will set you free. What is the truth in this case? “People do take me seriously; it’s not based on my height at all. Hopefully, they can see the richness in the information I share in order to help them decide to make changes in their lives. They experience life change because I live in faith, stand in faith, and I am rooted in faith. The principles I share are not of my own but of learning, applying and teaching.”
A challenging thought is often driven by the fear of not being accepted, a fear of not succeeding, or a fear of loss. They are all rooted in fear and fear causes doubt, self-loathing, brokenness and, most of all, a belief system that causes us to stand still and not take calculated steps to improve our lives.
How much of your life is influenced by someone you love or the perception of the love of yourself? How many times have you stood still, knowing you should move, because of your fear, or someone else’s?
Our mind has the ability to propel us or hold us still. This is all based on how we respond to the lie of not being good enough. I spent many years allowing myself to be repeatedly stuck in the same place, because I did not seek out a new direction for my life. I want to share this with you now, in case you might be stuck and in need of a shift, a turn, or a new direction. Your life can have more purpose, meaning, and clarity, when you train your mind to react with the weapon of truth. You need to slaughter the voices of being less than you are and the condemnation of yourself. The inspiration in our life only comes if we shift and take action.
It is necessary to tell your mind, when you have doubts, “Not only am I enough, but I have a purpose. I will fight back until my purpose becomes clear and the path I am on becomes straight.”
The cogitative processing systems in our brains control how we take action, see results and process our existing structure. In simpler words, if we learn to tame our thought processes, we will also tame how we deal with the complications of life. A healthy mind enables us to adopt a belief system of overcoming and not shortcoming ourselves.
In closing, I offer this reminder, which has actually worked for me, “If you can challenge your mind, it won’t be long before you can motivate your heart towards more direction, not more confusion.”
I hope you enjoy my blogs; I enjoy writing and sharing my heart with you. Thank you for reading and if you think a friend, colleague, or family member can benefit from my writing, please share it with them. It would be my honor to offer even the smallest glimmer of light to anyone’s life that needs more illumination.
In your service,